Need to say "I Love You" ...

This post is in continuation to my earlier post Right time to say 'I Love You'.

As ABH mentioned the discussion on this topic is really never ending :) and it generates so much of energy in each one of us. After reading my previous post, Rajani mentioned that my post seems to be incomplete to her as I have not mentioned when is the right time to say "I Love You".

Yes, I had left the post incomplete on purpose. Since the right time to say "I Love You" is very much subjective to each and every person. The right time for one person may not the right time for another person, but there is/will be always a right time which needs to be realized by each lover.

It was really nice to hear and read the comments as I duly respect each ones views on this subject. Its their right to think on their own which brings out the real thing rather than just accepting others views.

Let me just put forth my view on "Love". Many people have opposed and did not like my outlook on Love for various reasons. Love as such is a very powerful emotion and when broken down to minute detailing, it emerges as sheer need. I know its very difficult to accept Love as just need. But this need is very beautiful in nature when understood and its very natural.

Let me try to explicate further on this. Why is that we look out for love only during particular phase of our life span? Why is that we love a particular person , not whomever we meet ? Why is that only few fall in love not everyone ?.

Without our consciousness there exists a requirement list or a specification document about the kind of person whom we want within ourselves. It is discovered that the need for a opposite sex at the right time and right age is very much essential and natural. We accept someone as our life partner only when there exists a need and also this person satisfies most items in our requirement. That's the reason we fall in love with only a particular person not everyone we meet.

Next to think over is "Is there a need to explicitly express our love"?.

Human mind as such is very clever and cunning. There is nothing wrong with it, its very nature is like that. Without our conciousness mind tends to overrule us in many ways.

As for my experiences goes, there are two different phases/stages in a lovers life. They can be called as pre-love phase and post-love phase :).

Pre-Love phase is stage in which both the parties involved have not verbally communicated about loving each other. It is also called as a fairy tale phase, where in everything looks fancy and lovable without much of reality involved. During this phase, most of the times without our conscious the mind tends to be faking it out and thus hiding our true nature in order to be

in the good books of the other person. That's the reason the so called lover even eats those vegetarian foods even though he hates it to the core :), he says she is beautiful in that gown even though its so obviously awkward :). This phase is kind of masking phase, where in the true nature is masked and impossible to understand the other person.

The transition from Pre-Love to Post-Love is initiated by commitment. This commitment is nothing but in verbal or any other form of clear communication that they are in relationship with each other. When this commitment is done, both the involved parties tend to take the other person granted as they feel to be related. Then the mind relaxes and try to be in its natural state instead of faking. This is when the true nature of the person is revealed.

Only in this post-Love phase actual bonding and understanding of the person takes place.

Right time to say "I Love you"

Its quite interesting that there are few subjects which are difficult to understand since it formulates into totally new dimensions when heard the same from different people. I am sure that every one agrees with me when i say one of those complex word is "LOVE".

This word seems to be ever green and will last as long as this world exists. This word is rated to be one of the most extensively used word in the human civilization. You can never find a good book or epic without its depiction or can you find a poem/prose without describing it or you might not heard of an interesting speech without a mention about the above word.

I always wonder about the actual nature of this word. Is this word really so powerful ? Is this word really mean so much to all ? or its just an hype surrounding this word that gives an illusionary feeling when its used ?.

I had taken this word to different levels with different people till date and obtained very contradicting answers which made it much more interesting to analyze further. When this topic was discussed with few spiritual (fucked up) minds, the results seemed be quite disturbing. And the answers were not that comfortable. They came up with an quite straight forward answer that "Love is nothing but a need". Love arises only when there is a particular need for it or else it doesn't, May be thats the reason only few fall in love.

Its much more interesting when you bring up this topic with Virtual lovers. Virtual lovers are those who love the other person virtually with the assumption that the other person are also in love with them.

They came up with different versions of Love and on a broader level they can be categorized into "Love at first sight" and "Love after multiple sights".

The first group believes that love is true only when it spawns at the very first sight and the latter disagrees with the first that love only blossoms like a flower with each meetings.

I have few friends of mine who heard angels singing and stars spinning around around them when they find their girl/boy for the very first time. And i have another case wherein they are friends for years now and he/she still feels that his/her love is still a bud and waiting for it to bloom without any effort.

But the most common factor with both of these group is the problem with expressing their love. Whether the love is at first sight or after multiple sights they have unsolvable question in front of them and that is when is the right time to express love , when is the right time to say "I Love You ".

Signs ...

There are so many things in life for which there doesn't exits any explanation, they cannot be shelfed and brought under a particular logic pattern. You just act without any self reasoning, its one of those times where in the ever active mind takes the back seat and dissipates into thin air.

One of those acts was me shutting myself today into my coffin for more than 24 hours with a occasional word or two with the outside world. You sometimes feel so much in content when cut out totally from the outside world doing things without even knowing what you are doing. Sounds crazy isn't it :).

Its so astonishing and interesting when you start looking out for those signs. After reading through lot of works on signs and how it functions in conducting the worldly affairs, i somehow tend to come across them very often.

Last Saturday when i met my friend out of nowhere he read an article by OSHO, talking about the play "Waiting for GODOT"and today i receive an email from an unknown source about GODOT.

They say its a sign, "Never ignore when something comes your way without your effort, there is something in it for you". I started looking out the source of the play "Waiting for Godot"and even downloaded the play.

As i am half way through watching the play, there was a new mail popup box at the corner of my notepad. The pop read "Waiting for Godot". I was shocked and opened the outlook to read what exactly was the mail about. It was an invitational mail from Ranga Shankara for Samuel Becket's play "Waiting for Godot" tomorrow evening.

I decided i will go with the signs.